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Saturday, June 23, 2012

"The Goodbye Girl".......

A couple of months ago my granddaughter, Jocelyn, learned to wave
bye bye...........



She's my first grandchild, I love her more than air, and I have no life, so this was a pretty big thing....



I'd been working with her over skype for what seemed like forever , "Jocelyn.... can you say bye bye for grammie...??? wave bye bye"!!!!!



( have you ever been looked at like you'd lost your mind... by a six month old???)
And I'd wave like a maniac at the screen.....



Till one day she looked down at her little hand, she picked it up, and she waved like a maniac........
( okay... she was waving at herself..... and laughing like hell... she was six months... cut her some slack )



I was all excited at her new skill.........
Her mother was not.
Heather: "We're not teaching her Goodbye..... Goodbye is negative, and it's sad... we say, see you later "


I blame myself


When Heather and her brothers were growing up, we were not big on "Goodbye".....
I found it negative, and sad.... and if you're wishing someone "Goodbye" as they're walking out the door... you're just begging for a visit from the bad luck fairy....
I suppose when you have small children, you concentrate on everything new and beginning.....
Babies bring beginnings with them...........

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They're made for first smiles, first steps......
That first touch of new skin.........
The one that wraps this child around the fabric of your heart, tighter than super glue clings to the first valentine........
Goodbye implies an ending............
and it's impossible to stand in the glow coming off the candles on your child's first Birthday cake, and imagine the day you'll have to let this child go.............


As incomprehensible as it is to understand........
To wrap your mind around...........
Your child begins leaving you, the moment he or she begins independent breathing free of you.....
That first lusty wail is a declaration of their independence......
We teach them to walk and talk, and hopefully to be kind, considerate, and responsible.......
And then we send our helpless babies into a world we pray will always be kind, and will never hold the sadness, the finality, that "Goodbye" brings with it........



We stand at wedding altars, in dorm rooms, in airports and train stations, with tears swimming in our eyes, as we swallow around the lump of reality named "Goodbye" ( or it's sister: "See you later" )
"Goodbye", has taken a hell of a rap, hasn't it??
Goodbye carries an ending, it's true.......
But don't old things have to come to a natural end, in order to make way for new things in our lives???
New jobs, new friends, new places to see.............
and let's not forget new babies...........
I'm not saying goodbye....... I'm saying I'm making way for new things in my life....
Has a much nicer ring to it, don't you think??
Thanks for reading!!!!

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